“In the middle of nowhere” or how today’s digitalized world silently robs you.

In all history of the mankind information flow has never circulated as fast as nowadays. Immediately accessible, unlimitedly duplicable, in all forms and shapes. Around 4,68 billion people communicate through their phones today (2019 figures). United Nations already talks about « Digital Natives » in their stats. And yet…. people have never been as lonely and communicating as poorly as they do nowadays.

According to McKinsey study, the global data flows increased by 45 times between 1980 and 2014, and those global flows have a direct GDP impact over the world (2,8 Trillion Dollars from data flows, larger impact than goods trade!). Has the well-being improved therefore ? You know the answer…

People never looked as often for the wellness services as they do today. Wellness tourism accounts for about 4,5 trillion dollars worldwide. Never have I ever seen so many yoga classes opening here and there across big cities.

1. How today’s digital world changes people’s well-being?

900 million individuals have international connections on social media. Everything has gone digital, starting from the business platforms and apps ending with people’s mindset, almost comforting a “Black mirror” vision of the world. Facebook users population is greater than China’s. On average, people have almost 8 social media accounts. And still, the very basic human questions have not been solved.

Have a look at these stats : “An estimated 46.6 million U.S. adults struggle with mental illnesses, such as anxiety disorder, according to the National Institute of Mental Health”.

Also, a research study published in Harvard Business Review shows “60% of people have experienced symptoms of mental health issues in the past year”.

Furthermore, “half of millennial (defined in this survey as 23-38 years old) and 75% of Gen-Zer (18-22 years old) respondents have quit a job partially due to mental health reasons.”. (Link)

How come our society ends up so empty and depressed despite being all the time busy and full of everything? Entertainment industry has never been so rich whereas we read appalling facts about how everybody consumes antidepressants or consults psychologists.

Is there something we have never seen coming ? An auto-trapping crisis ? One thing is sure, social and economic trends now evolve under rhythm of the digital revolution. People make money, exist, learn, make connections and entertain themselves on internet and through internet. I just don’t want to imagine the global worldwide depression if internet is cut by any circumstance such as a massive solar irruption or a war. Think of how vulnerable we have become as a specie.

Add to this how lonely this has made us….

2. Loneliness despite digital revolution

According to a survey performed by the Royal Society for Public Health among 1479 teens in early-2017, the Loneliness was the last topic that the social media helped improving in their lives and that scored the least in the overall results of life improvement through social media.

The Economist/KFF research confirms some of recent findings about high levels of loneliness. A recent Cigna survey points out that “nearly half of Americans always or sometimes feel alone (46%) or left out (47%). Fully 54% said they always or sometimes feel that no one knows them well”.

This does not only apply to the U.S., “a third of Britons said that they often or very often feel lonely. Nearly half of Britons over 65 consider the television or a pet their main source of company. In Japan, more than half a million people under 40 haven’t left their house or interacted with anyone for at least six months. In Canada, 28% of people are solo households! Across the European Union, it’s 34%. (Link to the source article).

To sum up, people are not happier or less lonely than they have been before digital revolution. Worse, not only all social media and online entertainment industry keeps you from spending time in real life with real friends, digital platforms enable new ways of consumption and therefore shape people’s relationships around those habits: people go out based on events referenced on web, buy things based on what they see on internet, talk about things they read in their notifications. They simply keep from establishing substantial links and instead mirror what’s on internet, the Black Mirror. What is this if not a Mirror Land ?

This is a crucial point since societies see their mentality shaped based on the language and tools they use : having a universal language of the web totally conditions one to a unique mode of thinking. All ideas people come up for a business relates with internet platforms or websites, all solutions companies adopt to solve their efficiency and performance issues relate to the digital ones.

And this is where the robber shows its face…

3. The robbery behind digital revolution

Imagine a situation where someone makes up a plan to to get rich and by some misfortune ends up robbing himself to accomplish his own plan. This is the situation modern society faces.

First, you are stolen your identity and privacy since you have stepped in this journey of a web user. It is just a “by default” condition, there is absolutely no guarantee at all your data remains private, a simple course on cyber security (check out moocs on this topic) will tell you that. But the game does not end there. It gets worse because you still need an identity to exist, so you adopt a digital one which would reflect you from the best possible angle, or at least how you would wish seeing yourself ideally.

Have a look at some Facebook profiles where people post stunning pics of themselves in a five star restaurant and a month later they publish a virtual wallet to help them escape misery and homeless situation. Of course, shit happens, however, this clearly leaves a food for thought on how far has our virtual society gone… You get stolen your vision of yourself and of the world, that’s the worst thing that can happen.

Secondly, you get stolen your freedom of self-determination. In many countries you no longer have choice to declare your revenues for taxes than through an online platform. You receive your bills, your taxes, results of your blood analysis, bank statements etc. to your email ! And you certainly don’t want to miss any of this since the punishment is well known for that… And again, the game is not over as it gets worse shall you miss an outstanding discount opportunity of a “Black Friday” – you will blame yourself and others will just laugh at you. A paranoia.

Last, but not the least, you get stolen the most precious thing you could ever have : your time. RescueTime says people spend on average 3 hours and 15 minutes a day and pick up their phone 59 times in average. Think of how much time you use your phone, tablet or computer for just doing “nothing” – setting up or installing something, typing a bad search query, checking, clicking, listing, unlocking, erasing, pulling out notifications, switching between tabs, typing a password or swiping something. At least 20 to 30 minutes a day. This makes around 180 hours per year. Hence in 50 years you spend over an entire year on a device just doing nothing. Add to this the huge amount of time spent on social media, emails, etc.. and you will get 13,5 years spent on a digital media (of which 12,5 spent on digital media (6 hours a day in average according to today’s statistics ) and one year as just mentioned).

This is certainly a good food for thought and I suppose a good reason to ask ourselves a question what do we really value in our society: technological progress or human intrinsic wellbeing?

Keep on touch and follow up this topic in the next article about wellbeing to find clues and new ideas in this field.

Let the randomness become order

“If you want to know the secrets of the universe, think in terms of Energy, Frequency and Vibrations” (Nicolas Tesla). Replace the word “think” by “act” and you will get a powerful tool to use in your day-to-day life…

This gorgeous painting by Mariana Heilmann has travelled with me since more than a decade now. She uses the idea of interrelationships [between all of us] and explores how energy manifests itself from microscopic to macroscopic scales. Her drawing is a “result of sustained repetitive mark making”, “the process demands suspension of thought and a spontaneous release of energy”, so she’s able “to witness and record how continuous, random and chaotic movement tends to an order”. She combines this to the use of x-rays and cell or particle imagery and makes a fundamental matter research in various forms. (For references check her website here ).

Having received these canvasses as a gift from my mother, I would never imagine these could influence me so deeply and I believe this is not a coincidence (this often reminds me of the appealing signs and drawings in the movie  “Arrival” inspired from science fiction novella “Story of your life” by Ted Chiang).

I became addicted to everything that related to spirals and circles in the art masterpieces… Starting from apparent spirals in Van Gogh’s and Monnet’s paintings or Hokusai’s Kanagava waves and ending with the Armenian eternity symbol reflected in most of Ancient temples and “Khatchkars“, I relentlessly searched for the meaning of this repetitive and yet very scalable concept.

Van Gogh (Starry Night)

I came up with something that closely relates to the concept of Tao (dao in Chinese signifying “the way”, “the path”, the “supreme being”), in other words the “natural order of the universe”. According to Laozi, the essence of Tao cannot be understood as a concept, but rather lived as an experience of everyday being. It is the fundamental force, energy, that creates everything, the essence of the reality and even “the original matrix of the universe before its creation”. Modern scientists refer to this as a “dark matter”.

dark matter interactions in universe
the dark “unknown” universe

Since this is something non-conceptual, there is no point to further describe it. Rather, let us provide with some examples of how this can be lived. Tao – or if you prefer, “Energy” (I know this is a very rough and brutal shortcut but still useful for a better contextualization) – is the reason why all randomness in our life, combined to our own “will” and “acts”, necessarily tend to an order and we may experience it through many different ways.

There are no wrong passwords

In your life path changes throughout years you may notice that most of time this occurred once you started aligning yourself to a specific mood, state of mind, topics, people, way of living, habits, etc… This is called the Resonance. Britannica defines this as a “large selective response of an object or a system that vibrates in […] phase, with an externally applied oscillatory force” (link). Carl Jung often emphasized the role of external influences over the construction of the various archetypes of our “self” (again, sorry for a rude shortcut on Jung’s theories that are more complex and much more elaborated than this).

This is to point out that our “self” acts as a hacker who enters each time different passwords into the reality matrix and obtains access to the realities that most closely correspond to the entered password. Notice, it is the reality that unlocks the functioning of a password, not the opposite. In other words, password is the frequency and vibrations we create based on our way of thinking, acting, imagining, accepting and conceiving things.

Apply here the rule of the “natural order”. Knowing the way energy behaves, you will know more or less where you are heading to. The many undertakings or thoughts that turn in your head do not necessarily conduct you to your imagined or desired reality (no password – result correlation) but rather to the reality which mostly aligns with them. Hence, you may rather forsee your trajectory than the final destination. It is still something, isn’t it? No randomness possible here. This is very close to the quantum physics theories, but we are not going to dive into it for now.

The natural trend to the wholeness

Another trend of the Tao consists in purely internal psyche phenomena.

Among other concepts, Jung also “identified the innate drive towards our own wholeness as existing a priori – as an inherited drive and a drive that is universal” (Thanks to Therese Bimka for this summary). Energy trends again.

This relates to the “way” mentioned in our previous articles about the art of making connections. We highlighted the nerve cell way of self-development: inter-relating to others, connecting to the whole rather than embracing the whole. Now we may go even further: the natural trend can lead you to a greater level of harmony shall you want so.

How? Laozi suggests being flexible, behaving as an artist: at some parts we follow the natural appeal of the energy and at some other parts we guide this move whenever required. You still need to master it of course or else you won’t be called an artist. Nevertheless, it is by connecting both the spontaneous release of energy and our perception of it, that we may achieve this and perceive harmony.

Some people assert only the release of energy matters, others say everything can be and must be controlled. We say “follow the energy and guide it in the same time”, like a “water”. Seize the subtle character of the energy and let it express itself through the channel that causes most of benefits and that harms the least.

Take example of someone waiting in a queue. The person gets bored and either opts for paying attention to something else to forget about waiting (smartphone?) or releasing its negative emotions about waiting. However, the best ever opportunity this person could seize would be – to pay attention to its emotions in fact. Choose both options. This will make the person explore a whole new world, new questioning, new understanding and new ideas, far more creativity than just playing angry birds on the smartphone…. :). Enabling such an awareness will help to better channel your emotions, plans and ideas and avoid wasting them on self-destruction or self-distraction (both lead to the same outcomes…).

Wrap up

Determine firmly your objective, then release the grasp on energy and focus rather on the flow of energy than on the outcome. This is how Tao would apply to our life-impacting situations. As a painter holding a brush and twisting it with flexibility and yet determination, you would act the same way.

I conclude these thoughts by sharing an interesting experience that sums up all the above mentioned topics.

I was having an interview with a Senior Director of a worldwide known company. He started with the usual “tell me about yourself”. I was pretty well prepared for this, but I still hated that question. He noticed I was stressed and asked, “are you nervous?”.

This is where I felt “it’s enough, let this just go its way, stop controlling everything”. I replied “Yes, of course I am. Why wouldn’t I? I don’t know you, I don’t know this place, so naturally yes, I am nervous, but this will pass away throughout our conversation”. Starting from there I felt an immediate relief of energy and each time the person tried to restrain me I always allowed him and myself some higher level of flexibility both in mind and in expression simply by directing the attention to the right channel.

Whenever the person needed to talk I let him talk, whenever the person needed concrete answers, I directed my energy flow into it. It almost became a game where I had nothing to lose but where I was more concerned by the way I was channeling myself rather than the outcome. I did not accept the position they offered but I learnt a lot from this meeting.

Life changing “Transurfing” tips to live your dreams

How could an ex-Russian quantum physicist and author help you achieve any dreams you might have and become the happiest person you could ever imagine?

Vadim Zeland has a proven track record in this specialty. His concept of “Transurfing” – the art of surfing through the reality and transforming it – has hit bestsellers’ records and there are some good reasons for it. (Check it out here).

First and furthermost, it really works.  I have personally tested this – for several years – and I must acknowledge I obtained exactly what I needed and am quite happy about it.

Secondly, there are thousands of testimonials you can read through on internet. You’ll be even more convinced in it after reading the books and understanding the principle concepts of Transurfing.

Last but not the least, Vadim Zeland’s life and achievements demonstrate the effectiveness of Transurfing techniques. From a poor IT Specialist he became an Independent New Rich, a best-selling author and one of the most coveted conference guests.

This is enough evidence, however, it could really take some time to fully assimilate all the concepts of Transurfing and sometimes you need to ensure you get the full picture until this knowledge can really be applicable and bring concrete results. For this reason, I think it considerably makes a huge difference to get slightly more familiar with such a knowledge before jumping in the literature. Put in a short and effective way you may get some actionable tips that truly work so you are convinced to start with the further techniques and dive into the breathtaking lecture of the 5 + extra volumes of the bestseller.

Interested? Let’s have a closer look at what’s Transurfing is about and how it can change your life.

1. What is Transurfing?

It can be summarized in just one sentence: A complete and systematic ancestral knowledge combining visualization, behavioral, self-development and psychic techniques enabling you to play within unknown rules of reality and get to the state you mostly and truly desire and deserve.

2. What do I need to succeed in Transurfing?

Ingredients: Belief (at least 50% of the practice time), Determination (100%), Energy (10 to 30% of all your mental and physical energy available), Focus (you should be able to control at least 70% of your attention), Imagination (no limits), Self-confidence (as much as you have for the time being), Self-inspection and self-listening ability (same as in the previous), Emotional Intelligence (at least an Emotional Quotient (EQ) above the average), Discipline (100%).

3. How long does it take in average to make a dream come true?

It varies, but, in average and in most cases, if you meet the three essential conditions, you are guaranteed a 100% result within 3 to 6 Months depending on the level of complexity.

4. What are those three essential conditions to meet?

The first condition is to have a clearly established objective, as clear as possible. It must be a final objective, a final state you want to see yourself in. No intermediary stages, no “how to”s, just a final product that you must choose from the infinite possibilities’ catalogue. This is the principle of quantum reality.

The second conditions is the unity of mind and soul. If this is not the case it is never going to happen, no matter how much energy you will put it. The unity of mind and soul means the alignment of what your mind wants and what your heart tells you. If this is not reached the dreams fulfillment will take more time than needed. Hence you must be really good in both listening your heart appeals and managing your mind’s capacity to project itself in the future. The secret tip here is being a Silent Observer so as to be able to identify those alignment opportunities and make them come true…

The third condition – no matter how simplistic it sounds – is to allow yourself to get what you are intended to.  It simply consists in shifting the paradigm: you are not striving for a goal’s accomplishment, you are letting yourself come to that and letting the world help you get there. The key is the “intention”: the way it is formulated, handled, expressed and circulated. You do not want, you do not desire, you are just totally aligned and aware that you need that “something” so you are intended to getting to this situation somewhere on your life path where this “something” is delivered to you.

5. Are the techniques difficult?

Not at all, just sometimes it can appear a bit redundant if you are new to this. You must carry on your way and see the big picture. See it as a game – that’s probably the best advice I can give. It must be an adventure so you can enjoy fulfilling your dreams. After all, these are techniques and they can be mastered. This knowledge has deep sense and there is no random it has been canalized nowadays.

6. What tips and tricks can I use starting from now?

MAKE (IT):

M: for Mirroring. According to Transurfing, your entire life is nothing but a mirror of yourself. You smile – the mirror smiles. You behave like someone who’s intended to hit a world record no matter what others say – life will do everything to conduct you to that state no matter what others say. You are generating positive thoughts every day – You will start seeing even more of those in your reality.

A: for Alignement. You wish you could be a CEO but you are not particularly happy about this – it won’t happen or in the worst case it will happen but you would have wasted time, energy and even greater opportunities. You wish you were traveling more but your mind and reason considers you’re fool as you have no ressources required for this – it won’t happened neither or it won’t happen until you understand your mind is blocking you from undertaking wise steps into some uncovered opportunities. Alignement of mind and soul is key. They must agree and become friends and everything will be possible.

K: for Knowledge. Information is key, knowledge is the door. In front of any choice you will make it is crucial to be well guided. Therefore, acquire a complete knowledge of the overall Transurfing system so you prevent yourself from being discouraged in the half way to the victory. As long as you have parceled and weak knowledge on how the whole thing works you won’t feel comfortable, hence you won’t be confident and won’t be able to project properly your thoughts, energy and will.

E: for Energy. Everything requires energy. This aspect has been discussed earlier. Check out the “Apocryphal Transurfing” to learn more about energizing resources and techniques.

Hope this makes sense to you. Enjoy further reading!