“In the middle of nowhere” or how today’s digitalized world silently robs you.

In all history of the mankind information flow has never circulated as fast as nowadays. Immediately accessible, unlimitedly duplicable, in all forms and shapes. Around 4,68 billion people communicate through their phones today (2019 figures). United Nations already talks about « Digital Natives » in their stats. And yet…. people have never been as lonely and communicating as poorly as they do nowadays.

According to McKinsey study, the global data flows increased by 45 times between 1980 and 2014, and those global flows have a direct GDP impact over the world (2,8 Trillion Dollars from data flows, larger impact than goods trade!). Has the well-being improved therefore ? You know the answer…

People never looked as often for the wellness services as they do today. Wellness tourism accounts for about 4,5 trillion dollars worldwide. Never have I ever seen so many yoga classes opening here and there across big cities.

1. How today’s digital world changes people’s well-being?

900 million individuals have international connections on social media. Everything has gone digital, starting from the business platforms and apps ending with people’s mindset, almost comforting a “Black mirror” vision of the world. Facebook users population is greater than China’s. On average, people have almost 8 social media accounts. And still, the very basic human questions have not been solved.

Have a look at these stats : “An estimated 46.6 million U.S. adults struggle with mental illnesses, such as anxiety disorder, according to the National Institute of Mental Health”.

Also, a research study published in Harvard Business Review shows “60% of people have experienced symptoms of mental health issues in the past year”.

Furthermore, “half of millennial (defined in this survey as 23-38 years old) and 75% of Gen-Zer (18-22 years old) respondents have quit a job partially due to mental health reasons.”. (Link)

How come our society ends up so empty and depressed despite being all the time busy and full of everything? Entertainment industry has never been so rich whereas we read appalling facts about how everybody consumes antidepressants or consults psychologists.

Is there something we have never seen coming ? An auto-trapping crisis ? One thing is sure, social and economic trends now evolve under rhythm of the digital revolution. People make money, exist, learn, make connections and entertain themselves on internet and through internet. I just don’t want to imagine the global worldwide depression if internet is cut by any circumstance such as a massive solar irruption or a war. Think of how vulnerable we have become as a specie.

Add to this how lonely this has made us….

2. Loneliness despite digital revolution

According to a survey performed by the Royal Society for Public Health among 1479 teens in early-2017, the Loneliness was the last topic that the social media helped improving in their lives and that scored the least in the overall results of life improvement through social media.

The Economist/KFF research confirms some of recent findings about high levels of loneliness. A recent Cigna survey points out that “nearly half of Americans always or sometimes feel alone (46%) or left out (47%). Fully 54% said they always or sometimes feel that no one knows them well”.

This does not only apply to the U.S., “a third of Britons said that they often or very often feel lonely. Nearly half of Britons over 65 consider the television or a pet their main source of company. In Japan, more than half a million people under 40 haven’t left their house or interacted with anyone for at least six months. In Canada, 28% of people are solo households! Across the European Union, it’s 34%. (Link to the source article).

To sum up, people are not happier or less lonely than they have been before digital revolution. Worse, not only all social media and online entertainment industry keeps you from spending time in real life with real friends, digital platforms enable new ways of consumption and therefore shape people’s relationships around those habits: people go out based on events referenced on web, buy things based on what they see on internet, talk about things they read in their notifications. They simply keep from establishing substantial links and instead mirror what’s on internet, the Black Mirror. What is this if not a Mirror Land ?

This is a crucial point since societies see their mentality shaped based on the language and tools they use : having a universal language of the web totally conditions one to a unique mode of thinking. All ideas people come up for a business relates with internet platforms or websites, all solutions companies adopt to solve their efficiency and performance issues relate to the digital ones.

And this is where the robber shows its face…

3. The robbery behind digital revolution

Imagine a situation where someone makes up a plan to to get rich and by some misfortune ends up robbing himself to accomplish his own plan. This is the situation modern society faces.

First, you are stolen your identity and privacy since you have stepped in this journey of a web user. It is just a “by default” condition, there is absolutely no guarantee at all your data remains private, a simple course on cyber security (check out moocs on this topic) will tell you that. But the game does not end there. It gets worse because you still need an identity to exist, so you adopt a digital one which would reflect you from the best possible angle, or at least how you would wish seeing yourself ideally.

Have a look at some Facebook profiles where people post stunning pics of themselves in a five star restaurant and a month later they publish a virtual wallet to help them escape misery and homeless situation. Of course, shit happens, however, this clearly leaves a food for thought on how far has our virtual society gone… You get stolen your vision of yourself and of the world, that’s the worst thing that can happen.

Secondly, you get stolen your freedom of self-determination. In many countries you no longer have choice to declare your revenues for taxes than through an online platform. You receive your bills, your taxes, results of your blood analysis, bank statements etc. to your email ! And you certainly don’t want to miss any of this since the punishment is well known for that… And again, the game is not over as it gets worse shall you miss an outstanding discount opportunity of a “Black Friday” – you will blame yourself and others will just laugh at you. A paranoia.

Last, but not the least, you get stolen the most precious thing you could ever have : your time. RescueTime says people spend on average 3 hours and 15 minutes a day and pick up their phone 59 times in average. Think of how much time you use your phone, tablet or computer for just doing “nothing” – setting up or installing something, typing a bad search query, checking, clicking, listing, unlocking, erasing, pulling out notifications, switching between tabs, typing a password or swiping something. At least 20 to 30 minutes a day. This makes around 180 hours per year. Hence in 50 years you spend over an entire year on a device just doing nothing. Add to this the huge amount of time spent on social media, emails, etc.. and you will get 13,5 years spent on a digital media (of which 12,5 spent on digital media (6 hours a day in average according to today’s statistics ) and one year as just mentioned).

This is certainly a good food for thought and I suppose a good reason to ask ourselves a question what do we really value in our society: technological progress or human intrinsic wellbeing?

Keep on touch and follow up this topic in the next article about wellbeing to find clues and new ideas in this field.

The Secrets behind real energy boosting and healthy food

You are being fooled about food and energy. Most of what you consume and how you consume just miserably sustains you at the same level of energy and silently gets you addicted to this state. Discover the real potential of the “alive foods” and natural way of cooking it if you want to: Boost your energy to unprecedented levels, live longer, live healthier, uncover your full energy and creativity potential, get rid of illness and always remain in good mood.

Most of the world population eats poor food, not to say suffers from malnutrition (America, China, India, Europe). People are confused on what to eat. Urbanization does not necessarily improve alimentation quality (FAO study) and may even worsen it.

The 21st century is a place where 75% of the world’s food is generated from only 12 plants and 5 animal species. Those do not care that you eat healthy but that you get delivered their products and pay for them. Whether you will get the same value of energy your money is spent for – no one can guaranty this. Worse, it is often the opposite, you buy a very poor Food with practically no real Energy value and for a skyrocketing price.  

This is not all, the worst part is the hidden one. You think you consume normally, whereas you ignore the trap you are in – getting addicted to additives, discretely suffer from fertilizers, chemicals, bad diet and wrong conceptions about nutrition – you are being slaved in a system where your will is bent to the miserable level of energy obtained with the food you ingest.  

  1. How to get out of this trap and make the right nutrition choices?

The modern food industry leaves no place for real choice and one’s life responsibility ownership. It consists in a paradoxical equation: Standardized and Manufactured Food with Poor Energy Value = Lot of money; however, Food with Rich Energy value = Lot of Time and Effort required to find it out and select. Since Time and Effort = Money, make your conclusions…

The solution is then to: Invest time and efforts in selecting the right food and opt out for high energy value nutriments. Yet, here is the first secret that we need to release regarding the aspects of “high energy value nutriments”.

  • Secret n°1: The more you heat the food, the less energy you will get out of it once ingested, and the more harm you will get from the nutria-elements transformed through heat (carbon, transformed grass matter, etc.). Worse, you often get addicted to those transformed elements. Literally you eat dead food. There is no LIFE ENERGY left in it, no Chi or Prana, no bio-magnetic value in those dead cells. Just minerals that you force your organism to transform. Hence, you have no supply in “Life”, no supply in the most vital thing before air, water and minerals: the bio-magnetic energy.
  • Secret n°2: The system wants you to behave so, as the lack of energy will make you more depended on its food production cycle. You will therefore adjust yourself to its rhythm: you will have a breakfast, a lunch, a dinner, etc. As if you were supposed to complete some rituals. Avoid this. Lead your own way! The cycles must conform to our body’s needs rather than to any norms.
  • Secret n°3: The more naturally you feed yourself the higher value you will get out of the food. Hence, the less transformation, the better. This does not discourage your from making recipes, on the contrary – this encourages you to think of more natural recipes.  Considering yourself a carnivore or an omnivore? First, ask yourself the right questions: why am I not hunting and eating raw meat and instead let industries produce intensive livestock, brutally kill animals, cut them into pieces and then get them in my plate cooked and with a taste that has nothing to do with the raw one – a transformed dead food.

Besides humans can be omnivores when they have no other choice, they can also be smarti-vores when they do have a choice, i.e. they can eat wisely.  The latter implies prefering in a raw state most of the following high energy value items:

  • Vegetables (i.g. cruciferous greens – broccoli, brussels sprouts, chinese cabbage, kale, watercress, green leafy- chicory, leaf lettuce, spinach and sauerkraut)
  • Algae (Chorella, Spirulina, Wakame)
  • Cereals and legumes (wild corn, buckwheat, beans, lentils, maca, peanuts, cocoa, Inca peanut (sacha inchi), potatoes or sweet potatoes have no particular energy value but you can cook them with vapor from time to time).
  • Roots (all kind of root vegetables, such as carrots, igname, ams, beets, parsnips, turnips, rutabagas, yuca, kohlrabi, onions, garlic, celery…)
  • Berries (all edible kinds), Seeds (i.g.: chia, flax and hemp seeds) or whole grains (amaranth, quinoa)
  • Green leaves (did you know that roots leaves have more nutritive value than the roots themselves?)
  • Mushrooms (almost no energy value, however they can serve to garment and complete some salads for example).
  • Fruits (berries such as blueberry, cape, goji), citrus, camu-camu, coconuts, lucuma, melons, watermelons, bananas, etc.
  • And sometimes fish and meat (fish – preferably raw, smoked or raw but spices-treated, meat – no recommendation provided in our article as we only recommend smoked or very softly cooked meat if you can’t restrain your habits), and all of this should be spared from overheating.
  • How to cook wisely?

Three things sum up wise cooking: enough alkalinity, proper food coding and organism cleanliness to make all ingested food effective. Note, among those, the last tip is Key.

Of course, the secrets behind wise cooking are widely described in Vedas together with their benefits. Ayurvedic recipes are widespread on internet. Do your research on it if you are interested in this but let us provide you with some concrete tricks that genuinely make difference.

  • Secret n°1: Alkalinity

According to Vedas – and put in our modern language – there has to be an alkaline balance in our body. Research indicates that 90% of our general population is far too acidic, which leads to a variety of negative health effects. For example, following Govind Kumar’s recommendation it is ideal to incorporate 2 glasses of lime juice along with the 8-12 glasses of water which is taken daily . A diet of 80% alkaline ash foods is ideal. We must maintain this ratio – 80 % alkalinity and 20% acidity for optimum health. The effects of having an alkaline body: 1) we are calm and collected 2) we have high energy level  3) our sleep patterns are deep 4) we have less colds and flus than normal  5) the immune system is  fortified  6) the body has good absorption/assimilation/digestion.

  • Secret n°2: Food coding

Not only “pH” level matters, we often overlook many other factors in our diet. Among them: the water structure and memory. Before consumed, water should be either distilled or melt, hence it should have no memory. Check out Emoto Massaru’s research on the water memory and water structure. It is just insane how much this matters to our health and general well-being. This can be considered as one of the most important parts in the food diet. There is no further explanation needed, we suggest you make research on this and experience what this means.

However, one thing we would like to stress on is the “coding” of water. By enriching water with right information (light, music, positive thoughts, prayer, intention, words, poems, pictures, frequencies and vibrations) you can incredibly and unlimitedly energize it, so you may want to take advantage of this technique. You can apply this both to the water and to the food you consume.

  • Secret n°3: Cleanliness of the organism is a prerequisite for food’s energy efficiency

Obviously, if your organism is full of toxins, parasites, etc., you will never reach the right levels of energy despite all efforts. Hence, the very first thing to do before all the above described steps (and we intentionally put this at the very end to make a better stress and convey this message to the right audience) is to clean up the digestive system. There are a dozen of methods and systems to get rid of toxins and parasites, you can choose which ever suits you best, however make sure you really do complete this step before onboarding with raw food or any kind of diets. 

Having said that, we hope you have enjoyed these recommendations and that they will help you to enjoy better health and mood. Don’t hesitate to share if you liked this article.

How tales shape “children’s” mentality

“The folktale is the primer of the image of the soul”[1] (Joseph Campbel). A universal language, a powerful vehicle of knowledge, a wisdom – the tale resides in the heart of our society where “mature children” call themselves “adults”. They forgot they went through a maturing process and most probably they think it is all over. Unfortunately, reality is different: maturing is not a process, it is a cycle and a very repetitive one. Each time we are given a new chance in similar and yet original situations. Each time we get back to the “childhood” state to reshape ourselves in a newer way. And this is where tales can help us!

Whether you think you or your children are born with or without social archetypes, you will necessarily undergo some sheer influence of the overall informational field, your surroundings. The tales you or your children grow up with will have incredible influence. You can’t help bad information flows in their mind. You only can help to calibrate this information with a well-defined approach. There are tons of literature on education and tons of research on this. However, nothing replaces some well balanced tales, those that bring a sense of measure – as for everyone this is the most difficult thing to learn in a crazy and fast changing world.

You wonder what’s the difference between a well-calibrated tale and a disbalanced one? First, let us provide with some observations on the benefits of the tales on children’s psychology. If we take the example of fairy tales, according to the research by K. Violetta-Eirini, those enable:

  • Better self-awareness and awareness of others, development of emotional intelligence[2] (R. Mello),
  • Development of healthy self-concept, sense of identity[3] (V. G. Paley)
  • Enhancement of imagination[4] (K. Gallas)
  • Development of human morality[5] (J. Zipes)
  • Enhancement of cultural sensitivity[6] (McCabe) when children are exposed to storytelling from various cultural contexts

Having mentioned that, let us now give you a small example of what we mean under “well-balanced” tales that usually enable a stronger and healthier mentality for our children. We believe people should read more of those. For sake of clarity we have chosen a very explicit and easily understandable tale conveying a wise teaching. The important here is just that you grasp the essence of our demonstration. So, there we go…

An old Czech wisdom counts the story of a dispute between the Reason and the Luck. They draw the lot and saw it is up to the Reason to interfere in human’s life first. So, the Reason takes on a poor paysan and convince him to escape his condition and become a gardener at a royal court. He works hard and designs indeed magnificent gardens. The luck remains discreet and simply observes.

As the princess becomes marriageable, she suddenly gets ill and loses speech. The king sees this as a threat to her reign. He publicly promises her hand to the man who can heal her. After reflection, the paysan sets up his plan. As the royal family walks in the garden, he starts talking to the princess’s dog. He asks the dog: “Once a friend of mine, a sculptor, shaped a beautiful woman in marble, then, an other friend of mine, a dressmaker, tailored her a beautiful dress, then at the end I came with my beautiful poems and by some enchantment made her become alive. As we are all in love with her, we wonder whom this lady should give her heart to?”.  “To you of course! You made her wake up and be alive! She must choose you!”, claims the princess swiftly.

Everyone is surprised as they hear princess speaking. The paysan then asks for the princess’s hand but provokes the king’s anger with such a trick and such an improper audacity. The king orders to cut his head as no paysan should ask for his daughter’s hand, especially in this manner. At that moment the Luck disputes the Reason and intervenes to rescue the poor paysan. The executioner’s sword suddenly breaks as he lifts it up. Following the customs for such kind of situations, they release the paysan, believing this is a sign from above. Hence the paysan can marry with the princess, so they live long and happy.

That is how the dispute between the Reason and Luck ends. They both need each other since alone they become destructive, while they can make miracles shall they work together.

Nothing especial, right? First, the paysan got confident and trusted his Reason so to accomplish great things and improve his condition. Secondly, the story he made up, in fact, cleverly reproduces the situation of the princess, so we have a narrative spiral, a kind of irony that won’t let our consciousness indifferent. Finally, we have an irrational resolution balancing with the rest.

 But have a look at the construction and the morale of the story: the paysan is not satisfied with his condition – the reason offers him opportunity to improve it; the princess becomes marriageable but gets sick; the paysan wants to marry her but has no other solution than to talk to her dog; despite the paysan succeeds in the task he’s ordered to be executed; not only he escapes execution but he is released and even marries the princess. There is always some sort of balance at every stage, from the beginning till the end. The rational constructions always contrast with unpredictable outcomes and vice-versa. This sparks attention, this is caught by our subconsciousness and recorded immediately. What’s more, interestingly the ending scenario seems less important than the teaching itself. Remarkable, isn’t it?


[1] Joseph Campbel (The Flight of the Wild Gander, p.25)

[2] R. Mello, “The power of storytelling: How oral narrative influences children’s relationships in classrooms,” International Journal of Education & the Arts, vol. 2, no. 1, 2001

[3] V. G. Paley, The Boy Who Would Be a Helicopter: The Uses of Storytelling in the Classroom, Cambridge, MA: Harvard University, 2001)

[4] K. Gallas, The Languages of Learning: How Children Talk, Write, Dance, Draw, and Sing Their Understanding of the World, N. Y: Teachers College Press, 1994.

[5] J. Zipes, Fairy Tale as Myth, Myth as Fairy Tale, Lexington: University of Kentucky Press, 1994

[6] A. McCabe, “Cultural background and storytelling: A review and implications for schooling,” The Elementary School Journal, vol. 97, no. 5, pp. 453-473, 1997.

Let the randomness become order

“If you want to know the secrets of the universe, think in terms of Energy, Frequency and Vibrations” (Nicolas Tesla). Replace the word “think” by “act” and you will get a powerful tool to use in your day-to-day life…

This gorgeous painting by Mariana Heilmann has travelled with me since more than a decade now. She uses the idea of interrelationships [between all of us] and explores how energy manifests itself from microscopic to macroscopic scales. Her drawing is a “result of sustained repetitive mark making”, “the process demands suspension of thought and a spontaneous release of energy”, so she’s able “to witness and record how continuous, random and chaotic movement tends to an order”. She combines this to the use of x-rays and cell or particle imagery and makes a fundamental matter research in various forms. (For references check her website here ).

Having received these canvasses as a gift from my mother, I would never imagine these could influence me so deeply and I believe this is not a coincidence (this often reminds me of the appealing signs and drawings in the movie  “Arrival” inspired from science fiction novella “Story of your life” by Ted Chiang).

I became addicted to everything that related to spirals and circles in the art masterpieces… Starting from apparent spirals in Van Gogh’s and Monnet’s paintings or Hokusai’s Kanagava waves and ending with the Armenian eternity symbol reflected in most of Ancient temples and “Khatchkars“, I relentlessly searched for the meaning of this repetitive and yet very scalable concept.

Van Gogh (Starry Night)

I came up with something that closely relates to the concept of Tao (dao in Chinese signifying “the way”, “the path”, the “supreme being”), in other words the “natural order of the universe”. According to Laozi, the essence of Tao cannot be understood as a concept, but rather lived as an experience of everyday being. It is the fundamental force, energy, that creates everything, the essence of the reality and even “the original matrix of the universe before its creation”. Modern scientists refer to this as a “dark matter”.

dark matter interactions in universe
the dark “unknown” universe

Since this is something non-conceptual, there is no point to further describe it. Rather, let us provide with some examples of how this can be lived. Tao – or if you prefer, “Energy” (I know this is a very rough and brutal shortcut but still useful for a better contextualization) – is the reason why all randomness in our life, combined to our own “will” and “acts”, necessarily tend to an order and we may experience it through many different ways.

There are no wrong passwords

In your life path changes throughout years you may notice that most of time this occurred once you started aligning yourself to a specific mood, state of mind, topics, people, way of living, habits, etc… This is called the Resonance. Britannica defines this as a “large selective response of an object or a system that vibrates in […] phase, with an externally applied oscillatory force” (link). Carl Jung often emphasized the role of external influences over the construction of the various archetypes of our “self” (again, sorry for a rude shortcut on Jung’s theories that are more complex and much more elaborated than this).

This is to point out that our “self” acts as a hacker who enters each time different passwords into the reality matrix and obtains access to the realities that most closely correspond to the entered password. Notice, it is the reality that unlocks the functioning of a password, not the opposite. In other words, password is the frequency and vibrations we create based on our way of thinking, acting, imagining, accepting and conceiving things.

Apply here the rule of the “natural order”. Knowing the way energy behaves, you will know more or less where you are heading to. The many undertakings or thoughts that turn in your head do not necessarily conduct you to your imagined or desired reality (no password – result correlation) but rather to the reality which mostly aligns with them. Hence, you may rather forsee your trajectory than the final destination. It is still something, isn’t it? No randomness possible here. This is very close to the quantum physics theories, but we are not going to dive into it for now.

The natural trend to the wholeness

Another trend of the Tao consists in purely internal psyche phenomena.

Among other concepts, Jung also “identified the innate drive towards our own wholeness as existing a priori – as an inherited drive and a drive that is universal” (Thanks to Therese Bimka for this summary). Energy trends again.

This relates to the “way” mentioned in our previous articles about the art of making connections. We highlighted the nerve cell way of self-development: inter-relating to others, connecting to the whole rather than embracing the whole. Now we may go even further: the natural trend can lead you to a greater level of harmony shall you want so.

How? Laozi suggests being flexible, behaving as an artist: at some parts we follow the natural appeal of the energy and at some other parts we guide this move whenever required. You still need to master it of course or else you won’t be called an artist. Nevertheless, it is by connecting both the spontaneous release of energy and our perception of it, that we may achieve this and perceive harmony.

Some people assert only the release of energy matters, others say everything can be and must be controlled. We say “follow the energy and guide it in the same time”, like a “water”. Seize the subtle character of the energy and let it express itself through the channel that causes most of benefits and that harms the least.

Take example of someone waiting in a queue. The person gets bored and either opts for paying attention to something else to forget about waiting (smartphone?) or releasing its negative emotions about waiting. However, the best ever opportunity this person could seize would be – to pay attention to its emotions in fact. Choose both options. This will make the person explore a whole new world, new questioning, new understanding and new ideas, far more creativity than just playing angry birds on the smartphone…. :). Enabling such an awareness will help to better channel your emotions, plans and ideas and avoid wasting them on self-destruction or self-distraction (both lead to the same outcomes…).

Wrap up

Determine firmly your objective, then release the grasp on energy and focus rather on the flow of energy than on the outcome. This is how Tao would apply to our life-impacting situations. As a painter holding a brush and twisting it with flexibility and yet determination, you would act the same way.

I conclude these thoughts by sharing an interesting experience that sums up all the above mentioned topics.

I was having an interview with a Senior Director of a worldwide known company. He started with the usual “tell me about yourself”. I was pretty well prepared for this, but I still hated that question. He noticed I was stressed and asked, “are you nervous?”.

This is where I felt “it’s enough, let this just go its way, stop controlling everything”. I replied “Yes, of course I am. Why wouldn’t I? I don’t know you, I don’t know this place, so naturally yes, I am nervous, but this will pass away throughout our conversation”. Starting from there I felt an immediate relief of energy and each time the person tried to restrain me I always allowed him and myself some higher level of flexibility both in mind and in expression simply by directing the attention to the right channel.

Whenever the person needed to talk I let him talk, whenever the person needed concrete answers, I directed my energy flow into it. It almost became a game where I had nothing to lose but where I was more concerned by the way I was channeling myself rather than the outcome. I did not accept the position they offered but I learnt a lot from this meeting.

The art of making connections

“There are only two ways of developing yourself in this world: the nerve cell way and the cancer cell way. The first rather expands itself through others by making connections and accepting them totally. The latter expands itself at the cost and detriment of others and destroys itself and others”. (“The magic of immortality”, Burislav Severest).

I completely ignore whether the author of this sentence is a wise master or a fake one and to be honest, I do not really care for. Yet, I am sure he took this from a powerful source since it appears robust enough, as if it was rooted deeply into an intuitively accessible knowledge.

A connection is an asset. Knowing how to make it – an art. Life consists in connections of every kind: your attention to these sentences, the first thing you will have in mind related to them a minute later, your mood at the end of this article, at the end of this day – the general feeling about your accomplishments… What are you connected to and what is connected to you? Have you ever asked yourself this question?

The nerve cell reproduces exactly what an intelligent form of life does everywhere: optimizing its duplication and reproducing its connections/links as much as needed to form an optimized organism. Explore the nature, everywhere you will see intelligently repeating patterns. Explore successful people, every one of them repeats intelligently successful life schemes.

What’s the key to read through this? Let us say “links”, or if you prefer “connections”. Humans only can behave through two main patterns: connecting or competing. The latter consists in a self-affirmation and the fact of taking advantage of something. Many have been taught since their childhood: “defeat others before you get defeated”, “win or lose”, “get rich or die poor”, “be someone or you’ll be nothing”.

On the contrary, the first option – connecting – invites you to get interested in life’s different facets and consider the great wealth it represents from all perspectives. This option will invite children to reflect on their life’s outcomes: “did you check how he got so far in his career so you could do same?”, “do you know what made you fail?”, “have you tried everything you could?”, “what else could you do to improve your situation?” – notice how contrasting this sounds compared to what you have just read.

You wonder where does this insatiable optimism come from?  Well, let me ask you the following question: consider your life’s all unfulfilled wishes, thoughts, dreams, doubts and fears – what is each worth? Nothing. Absolute zero life value and zero kinetic energy. Not only this is not worth of anything, it has created much frustration and negative emotions in your body. Concretely, you have sold yourself an indefinitely delayed project and then argued in favor of using someone else’s projects or ideas to make your living.

This is exactly how the destructive cell works: it delays its own production of necessary tools for energy development and instead takes on other cells. How does this end? Vampirism

And now consider the alternatives that you have already fulfilled – what is this worth?  Everything. You have learnt, acquired experience, made some discoveries, spared the knowledge that mattered to you and made your life records. You are not selling yourself anything, you are like a child with the Eastern eggs – trying to uncover what matters to you the most right at this moment. To do this – you relate to others, you relate to everything, all the hints that can help you navigate your way – you play the game of unconditional expansion of the knowledge. Knowledge of your “self”, knowledge of your “thoughts”, knowledge of the world’s phenomena, knowledge of your senses…

This is exactly how the nerve cell works. How does this end up? Gratitude.

Some crazy auto-healing techniques that will do you good in all times

The list is long, yet exclusive. Auto-healing is not only about miracle recipes (even though you’ll find some bits of those here) but also about simple day-to-day tricks that will help you stay in a good shape. Whether you work or got retired (or both 🙂 ), this will do you good.

“Mens sans in corpore sano” – healthy mind in a healthy body. This sums up the non-exhaustive list of techniques descried below. However, before we start our noble “body sanitizing” mission, let’s answer to some fundamental “why’s” regarding this portfolio of “sure values”.

Why should I do this?

In today’s world we spend less time improving our physical condition. We work hard and consume hard. The latter applies to our health as well and it is very unfair to see people working all their lifes and ending up with a poor health and aged cells. If there are things that really work why not using them now? No matter if you are old or young, you can take advantage of those tricks right away.

Why would I heal myself?

Because the root cause of many diseases lies deeply in the psychic state of the patients. Because, the patient and the healer must form one, as suggests Stefan Zweig in his less known “Healing the Spirit”. We must be responsible and acting for our health since we are one with our body. Most of time we let the body be inspected by experts and prefer rather not participating in any self-examination in a kind as it fears us.

Why should this work?

The modern medicine is built in a way that it deprives us from a direct access to our vital information until we suffer and primitively complain about a pain or illness. The only answer it brings is “alopaty”. Eliminating symptoms. The ancient medicine behaved differently. The wise approach would be to enable the full participation of the patient so as to both identify the root causes and eliminate those without even paying attention to the symptoms. Take a tour of the biography of the best world known healers (Edgar Cayce, Master Philippe de Lyon, Vanga, Carl Gustav Jung, Zigmund Freud): they always required the patient to participate in their own healing. Why wouldn’t you do that too?

1. Auto-healing techniques for small illness

If you have a flu, fever, caugh, cold, rhinitus etc., forget about everything, there is nothing to do than to boost your immune system. The best helpers are:

  • DB-DV-DS : stands for Deep Breathing – Deep Visualisation – Deep Sleep. Start eyes-closed with the deep breathing (lay down comfortably, preferably covered) and visualize just one color: shining gold light across the whole body. Fix it for at least 15 minutes and vizualise the gold light that is cleaning up the disease from your body. At the same time, at every exhalation relax/release your muscles until you fall asleep. 30 minutes of such a sleep replace over 3 hours of normal sleep. See the effects at the awakening.
  • Immunity boosting asanas: Setu Bandhasana, Hastapadasana, Matsyasana, Dhanurasana, Viparita Karani, Bhujangasana (preferably drink some hot water just before doing this asana).
  • Quick recipes: clean a whole ginger and press it. Put some hot (not boiled) water over the pressed ginger and let it infuse 5 minutes. Add a spoon of honey and let this mixture infuse for another 5 minutes. Add a half spoon of lemon juice and a half spoon of hacked turmeric and wait another 3 minutes. Infuse a tea with flower’s petals and add the previously obtained mixture by passing it through a filter. Drink the whole potion in one go. See the effects and don’t forget to smile.
  • Pranayama techniques: Last but not the least, if you really have no choice and feel ready to take risks (warning: this practice is not recommended for people in bad physical condition) you might want to try out the couple of pranayama codes described here below.

2. Auto-healing techniques for immediate effects

Need a quick boost of energy? Try this one:

Inhale during 6 seconds, hold breath for 4 seconds and exhale during 8 seconds. Repeat it 6 times. A the last cycle simply exhale as long and slowly as you can, till you have no air anymore in the chest. As you create vacuum, your stomach will tend to shrink down. Hold on without breathing and check your pulse (count until 10). You’ll notice how it slows down until almost pausing… Don’t be afraid. Your heart won’t have time to stop because you will want to inhale back again. This is where a huge dose of energy will fill up your body spontaneously. This is it, an energy booster to be used with moderation.

Need to quickly wake up your body and the whole organism? Try out this acupuncture trick:

Rub your ears in particular points as long as you can. It consists of a massage. By pushing on the acupuncture point on the ears you instantly wake up your hole organism, especially in the inner side of the ears.

Want to calm down quickly or remove some stress or emotions?

Take a deep breath, hold it and roll up your tongue so you touch the very edge of the upper pallet. Exhale very slowly through the mouth. Repeat this three times. By rolling up the tongue you slow heart rythme and contribute to cooling down your emotional state.

Suffering from insomnia?

Close your eyes and direct them to the middle of your front, as if you were looking at your third eye. Hold this for 5 minutes, then simply observe your thoughts as if you were sitting in the cinema hall. The brain hates it since this overloads dramatically its capacity, therefore the system shuts down pretty fast 🙂 . Have nice dreams!

3. Auto-healing techniques assumed to be working for heavier issues

Example of an advanced Pranayama technique:

This technique has been described in Gheranda Samhita – one of the oldest and most respected yoga sources – and consists in three Pranayama exercises.

Cautions: Be careful, these practices are extremely difficult to complete and you need to have an advanced level in Pranayama. Thus, we recommend this only for people with some record of Yoga practice. However, if you are a beginner and have some serious reasons to try this out, you may be lucky and nicely surprised shall you put enough effort and will (we went through this too so we know what we’re talking about).

The techniques translation from the original text have been obtained from a yoga master who perfectly knows both sanskrit, tamil and other related languages. First, proceed with 10 Bhastrika repetitions (yoga breathing, see here for more details). Then attack one by one the three exercises:

Exercise 1: After 10 Bhastrikas, take immediately a deep breath and hold it for one minute. In the meantime hold one hand over another and turn it circularly as if you were brushing it. After a minute, exhale slowly (keep brushing) until you empty the lungs. Feel your lower hand tingling. Repeat the same cycle but change the hands.

Exercise 2: Close the right nostril with the right thumb. Take a deep, silent and slow breath. Hold it as much as you can. Now close the left nostril with the auricular and the ring finger and release the right nostril, exhale very smoothly and silently. Breathe in now with the right nostril, hold breath likewise (as much as you’re able) and exhale through the left one accordingly. This makes one cycle. You should ideally complete 5 cycles.

Exercise 3: Take a deep breath, pump the lungs, stretch the stomach and hold as much as you can without breathing. Close one nostril and exhale slow with the other one. Proceed accordingly by alternating nostrils. Repeat 10 times.

Repeat those three exercises twice a day, everyday.

Benefits: Simply put, three months of such a practice will heal you from any physical disease, except of course very serious illness. If you want to try an even more advanced level you can play with the Exercice n°2. Simply codify it as follows: 12 seconds inhalation, 48 seconds hold the breath, 24 seconds exhalation. This is the 12-48-24 code, known for miraculous effects if practiced over 30 minutes long. Further on, the code 24 – 72 – 48 (insanely difficult) will bring even more surprising results. The code 48 – 96 – 72 is told to bring enlightenment to its followers (I know nobody who achieved this code so far 🙂 ).

Conclusion

To sum up this review of useful tricks, you would notice many of them come from some ancient practices and there is no surprise those time-proven methods work. However, as we have already mentioned in the beginning, the exclusivity of such practices depends on the state, the level of maturity and the readiness of the patient. The key to healing every disease still remains the understanding of its root causes and usually lies lot more in psychic phenomena rather than in physical symptoms or diagnosis.

Life changing “Transurfing” tips to live your dreams

How could an ex-Russian quantum physicist and author help you achieve any dreams you might have and become the happiest person you could ever imagine?

Vadim Zeland has a proven track record in this specialty. His concept of “Transurfing” – the art of surfing through the reality and transforming it – has hit bestsellers’ records and there are some good reasons for it. (Check it out here).

First and furthermost, it really works.  I have personally tested this – for several years – and I must acknowledge I obtained exactly what I needed and am quite happy about it.

Secondly, there are thousands of testimonials you can read through on internet. You’ll be even more convinced in it after reading the books and understanding the principle concepts of Transurfing.

Last but not the least, Vadim Zeland’s life and achievements demonstrate the effectiveness of Transurfing techniques. From a poor IT Specialist he became an Independent New Rich, a best-selling author and one of the most coveted conference guests.

This is enough evidence, however, it could really take some time to fully assimilate all the concepts of Transurfing and sometimes you need to ensure you get the full picture until this knowledge can really be applicable and bring concrete results. For this reason, I think it considerably makes a huge difference to get slightly more familiar with such a knowledge before jumping in the literature. Put in a short and effective way you may get some actionable tips that truly work so you are convinced to start with the further techniques and dive into the breathtaking lecture of the 5 + extra volumes of the bestseller.

Interested? Let’s have a closer look at what’s Transurfing is about and how it can change your life.

1. What is Transurfing?

It can be summarized in just one sentence: A complete and systematic ancestral knowledge combining visualization, behavioral, self-development and psychic techniques enabling you to play within unknown rules of reality and get to the state you mostly and truly desire and deserve.

2. What do I need to succeed in Transurfing?

Ingredients: Belief (at least 50% of the practice time), Determination (100%), Energy (10 to 30% of all your mental and physical energy available), Focus (you should be able to control at least 70% of your attention), Imagination (no limits), Self-confidence (as much as you have for the time being), Self-inspection and self-listening ability (same as in the previous), Emotional Intelligence (at least an Emotional Quotient (EQ) above the average), Discipline (100%).

3. How long does it take in average to make a dream come true?

It varies, but, in average and in most cases, if you meet the three essential conditions, you are guaranteed a 100% result within 3 to 6 Months depending on the level of complexity.

4. What are those three essential conditions to meet?

The first condition is to have a clearly established objective, as clear as possible. It must be a final objective, a final state you want to see yourself in. No intermediary stages, no “how to”s, just a final product that you must choose from the infinite possibilities’ catalogue. This is the principle of quantum reality.

The second conditions is the unity of mind and soul. If this is not the case it is never going to happen, no matter how much energy you will put it. The unity of mind and soul means the alignment of what your mind wants and what your heart tells you. If this is not reached the dreams fulfillment will take more time than needed. Hence you must be really good in both listening your heart appeals and managing your mind’s capacity to project itself in the future. The secret tip here is being a Silent Observer so as to be able to identify those alignment opportunities and make them come true…

The third condition – no matter how simplistic it sounds – is to allow yourself to get what you are intended to.  It simply consists in shifting the paradigm: you are not striving for a goal’s accomplishment, you are letting yourself come to that and letting the world help you get there. The key is the “intention”: the way it is formulated, handled, expressed and circulated. You do not want, you do not desire, you are just totally aligned and aware that you need that “something” so you are intended to getting to this situation somewhere on your life path where this “something” is delivered to you.

5. Are the techniques difficult?

Not at all, just sometimes it can appear a bit redundant if you are new to this. You must carry on your way and see the big picture. See it as a game – that’s probably the best advice I can give. It must be an adventure so you can enjoy fulfilling your dreams. After all, these are techniques and they can be mastered. This knowledge has deep sense and there is no random it has been canalized nowadays.

6. What tips and tricks can I use starting from now?

MAKE (IT):

M: for Mirroring. According to Transurfing, your entire life is nothing but a mirror of yourself. You smile – the mirror smiles. You behave like someone who’s intended to hit a world record no matter what others say – life will do everything to conduct you to that state no matter what others say. You are generating positive thoughts every day – You will start seeing even more of those in your reality.

A: for Alignement. You wish you could be a CEO but you are not particularly happy about this – it won’t happen or in the worst case it will happen but you would have wasted time, energy and even greater opportunities. You wish you were traveling more but your mind and reason considers you’re fool as you have no ressources required for this – it won’t happened neither or it won’t happen until you understand your mind is blocking you from undertaking wise steps into some uncovered opportunities. Alignement of mind and soul is key. They must agree and become friends and everything will be possible.

K: for Knowledge. Information is key, knowledge is the door. In front of any choice you will make it is crucial to be well guided. Therefore, acquire a complete knowledge of the overall Transurfing system so you prevent yourself from being discouraged in the half way to the victory. As long as you have parceled and weak knowledge on how the whole thing works you won’t feel comfortable, hence you won’t be confident and won’t be able to project properly your thoughts, energy and will.

E: for Energy. Everything requires energy. This aspect has been discussed earlier. Check out the “Apocryphal Transurfing” to learn more about energizing resources and techniques.

Hope this makes sense to you. Enjoy further reading!

The 5 most efficient daily rituals to make your day

Bloggers all around the world reference their bullet-proof methods to set up mind and body for a productive day. From simple daily or morning rituals to some articulated habits settlement (Jari Roomer) those enumerate a variety of techniques or activities that help focus and program an effective workday.

The business world guru Tim Ferris calls this the “5 morning rituals that help me win the day” and combines quotes from a range of remarkable people and most widely spread practices…

You first start making your bed following the recommendation of the Admiral William McRaven to feel some pride, then you Meditate or do some mindfulness practices with the guidance of Ferris’s book “Tools of Titans”, possibly you would also accomplish the “5-10 reps of something” (e.g. push-ups), without forgetting to prepare a “Titanium Tea” (why not…I do love Pu’erh..) and finish this by journaling and answering to questions/goals of the day. Ferris is very detailed and meticulous about describing his rituals, you almost want to reproduce literally the same scheme!

But how do things really work? These coaches all recognize that people barely achieve doing two or three out of those thousand activities. And does all this really help you achieve your “own” goals? We sometimes want to copy others behavior so badly we even ignore why we’re doing it all… You certainly may argue that these recipes are all customizable depending on people’s needs, and yet, the profound character of those rituals is still somewhat “standardized”. (Check my latest article dealing with the danger of “standardization” for the professional and personal life here).

On the contrary, while digging into the most universal methods (on goalcast or here), one realizes those are too abstract or too simplistic to really make difference for a specific situation. What’s more, everybody is so utterly focused on the “morning” or the “day” itself that they almost privilege more the rhythm and steps rather than the sense of those rituals….

It seems obvious that you should wake up early shall you want to have a productive day. It also appears of common sense to make some exercise, to meditate or to read. But none of those activities will make any difference if you are not getting the proper meaning of each and the reasons why you are getting yourself motivated to do those!

Put simply, many people lack some serious and deep context to understand why would they need to practice a ritual to be successful. Hereafter will follow some explanations that will help to decompose the myths behind the rituals on the one hand and to refill those with much sense on the other hand. You will be then given a proper methodology and real secret tips that will help you to genuinely make difference in all situations and for all life purposes.

Decomposing the myths

The first myth about morning or daily rituals is that they are supposed to work for everyone. WRONG. Compare it with the Placebo Effect. A placebo treatment always varies depending on a plenty of factors: the therapeutic context, the physician’s personality, the patient’s expectations, the nature of the patient-doctor relationship and finally the form, the cost and complexity of the treatment. Hence, no guarantee the same experience will have the same results for everyone when it comes to auto-suggestion of auto-programing techniques such as daily rituals.

 The second myth consists in the notion of the ritual itself. Rituals are a feature of all known human societies (Brown, Donald (1991). Human Universals. United States: McGraw Hill. p. 139). The word Ritual is related to the English “rite” (right way of doing things) and Latin “ritus” meaning “the proven way”, “the correct custom”, and possibly also related to the Sanskrit “rtâ” meaning “visible order”.  Some other analogies are possible too, one can relate it to something repetitive, such as a “rotation” (rota), a wheel, a cycle.

However, there is some inconsistency between the “right way or customs of doing things” and “the repetitive cycles”. How can someone be absolutely sure about doing the right thing by repeating the same thing over and over again?

We rather propose a different interpretation of the “ritual”. Opposed to the latin “irrĭtus” (unfixed) and rather apparent to the “reor” (attached, bound), the sense of a ritual, comparable to the meaning of other similar topics as amulets, icons and all ritual related staff – is mainly aimed at BINDING YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS WITH A FIXED OBJECTIVE. Hence, the ritual is nothing but a self-programming to reach specific levels of your subconsciousness. The latter influences your behavior to the point that you literally do “the right things to do” so as to get closer to the objective. Check out documentation on the hypnosis and NLP for that.

The third myth is that rituals are believed to be commonly understandable and accessible things. No single activity is performed uniformly: meditation, morning tea, visualization, relaxation, journaling,… not even the push ups. For example, there is no shared and in-depth vision of what meditation truly is and what it is actually for. Some recon this is made to better focus, some will say it consists in relaxing, some would say it is about mastering your mind, being aware…bla bla bla. Rarely do we see genuine master describing the essence of the meditation and its outcomes.

For all these reasons, and given the extent of our approach to the subject, we would wish to propose a different view on things, a proper methodology. This is called MEDIC and stands for Meditation, Energy, Depth, Intuition, Calm. Yet, we provide with the full description of what every word means and how to better practice on each step.

MEDIC: Meditation – Energy – Depth – Intuition – Calm  

  1. Meditation

Just pick up the first two syllables of this word: “medi” , meaning the “middle”. What’s this about. Buddha tought about the “Middle Way” conducting to the “illumination”. It literally consists in avoiding extremism. You neither focus, nor do you lose yourself. Simply observe. Surprisingly, in the Middle English the word observation has the sense of “respectful adherence to the requirements of rules or ritual”. This is an interesting fact; however, we wish to elevate the sense we are putting in this word. We rather mean here “being the observer”. We are not going to detail the practice of meditation as such (check out further articles on this topic) but we may indicate here some couple of tips.

Genuine meditation consists in an ability to “be the inner observer of your own self”, i.e. to dissociate your “Self” (ego) from your “Existence” (the fact of being here). By looking silently in the “Middle” of your self you are going to distinguish the movements of your thoughts from the silent presence of something deep in you. Thoughts will come and pass away, emotions too, and yet someone is still “here” to observe them. Give a try, be that observer and see what happens… Go down as deep as possible and uncover the truth that matters for you and that will impact you.

Contrary to all the recommendations regarding the preference of the morning time we rather suggest you do it in a more peaceful moment, most often in the night when both your ego and energy have calmed down after a long day of work and are more adapted to experience the silence.

There is a huge difference between a night meditation and the morning one. In the night you are in the dark and you are preparing to shut down after another cycle of events you experienced during the day. Hence, your fears, regrets, thoughts… they all “come to light” of your consciousness, just like before a death. That is where the best opportunity lies. Seize that chance to go deep down in your personality’s world to remark its illusionary nature. Notice that at that moment of a fatigue noting matters more than you being in your bed to get some nice warm sleep…  Stop your “self” in that very vulnerable situation and cast a light to your “Presence”. (see “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle).

2. Energy

Now that you have managed to meditate in the night, the logical outcome should be a sufficient amount of paradoxical psychic energy coming to you in the morning. To ground that you must canalize your flow of “Chi” (energy) through a series of exercises. In this field the best recommendation is : choose among the most intuitive and pleasant exercises. As energy knows what it likes most, you simply must trust your body’s appeals (of course mind some “reserves” on this term, we’re not savages 😊 ).

To further enhance energy level we recommend practicing yoga lockdowns such as Bandhis, exercises such as Agnisara Dhauti, asanas (Headstand), etc. Chi Qong or Tai Chi is also a great way of canalizing energy. In fact, you should rather care for canalizing it than for getting it. Trust the universe and nature to provide you with it and care for managing it wisely. After all, you have been given a life which is already a big amount of energy, so be confident that you will get some more on the way to help you accomplish your duties. 

Therefore, learn to circulate your energy in the body rather than to get it in.

3. Depth

The secrets of Olympic champion’s success are simple: use all the means at your disposal to win. For some athletes even a millisecond can make a difference. Likewise, do not hesitate to go deep into the topic of the Ritual and to create your own one that would deeply matter to you. In fact, creating a customized ritual on your own will make a huge difference compared to standard ones. Put simply this will relate to your deep consciousness and wake up sleeping resources that were until now unavailable to you! Take example from Rafael Nadal with his unprecedented gestures before serving.

Check out for the further articles on our blog to discover the variety of combinations you can make out of different know rituals.

4. Intuition

Ready with your customized ritual or rituals? Congrats. Now turn on your intuition development. This is a very tricky field, far from science and any known methodology. In the first instance it consists in relaxing (body, mind, emotions). Secondly, it does not have to be something to practice as an activity. Rather you have to get a habit of feeling intuitively the right thing to do. Deepak Chopra (here ) along with many other people have recommendations on this topic (example: Jack Canfield here).

Pick up everything you can around you to feel the right signs and interpret the messages the universe is sending you. If you do so from the very beginning of your day, you will notice how aware and mindful your behavior becomes over the day.

How?

Believe yourself in The Matrix. You are Neo and you know how to read the symbols around you. Your matrix is all the time configured and edited with different flows of information fluctuating around you. Pay attention to the repetitive things, messages you might here while walking in the street, some coincidences that should not have taken place.

In other words, the key to develop the intuition is the “spontaneity”. Do you believe in the notion of Serendipity? (check out Wikipedia here). If not, the serendipity believes in you 😊.  All you must do is to let yourself hear the level of comfort your heart is signaling to you. Being out of your comfort zone for a little time is normal, however remaining in that state is not! This is a very basic approach to the intuition but at least it makes sense to those who are beginners in this area…

5. Calm

Keep calm and have a tea. Preferring calm reactions to the overreactions is key to deliver well in the four previous points discussed here above. Calm etymologically means still, quiet, peaceful. I like the German word “Kaum” for that, meaning “barely”, “hardly”, “scarcely”. Calm reaction is barely a reaction, almost no reaction. Your day is full of everything, insane amount of information, emotions, thoughts, noises, etc. and instead of submerging yourself with more of those things you rather try Laozi’s concept of “Wuwei” meaning  “Inaction”, “Inexertion”. Check out “Original Tao: Inward Training (Nei-yeh) and the Foundations of Taoist Mysticism” (Verse 11, tr. Roth, Harold D. (1999), Columbia University Press). Laozi suggest returning to the state of “uncarved wood”.

We are not intended to make a dissertation on the Taoist Mysticism here. However, this is the best reference to practice our fifth arcane about “Calm”-ness.

In Russian, the calm can be both an adverb (and comes from two roots:  “sleeping” as in the “bed”) and a noun (sereral meanings: room, rest, peace…). There you go. To the bed! Just like in n°1 advice here above.

Let your “Self” sleep and instead be the observer in order to remain in the calm. Just like in your bed: nothing matters anymore, no single thought or emotion matter more than the fact of being in the bed and getting some warm sleep. Remind yourself this state and you will know how to be calm…

A career is above all a Virtuous Spiral

How long can you wait for the right moment to jump in your success spiral? People mostly ignore how their career or social situation do affect their own mindset and vice-versa. Often they follow the flow or someone’s lead. And yet, they wonder where are they going to land in the future or how did they land in such a situation. Isn’t this absurde?

Example:

Suppose you engage a lawyer to help you win a trial. You have no clue about the arguments that will be used in your favour, but you trust the lawyer to do his job as he is getting paid for it. He will use as much information as he can obtain from you, but those will be cold facts, nothing to do with empathy. Perhaps you don’t even expect any. To sum up, we have: a lawyer that just sells his services and a client that is just awaiting for an end-result. Now imagine that things do not turn so easily out and despite the arguments used in your favour, the judge dismissed you. The lawyer no longer disputes the decision or he might dispute it but most probably with the same exact arguments… And the end result is still a loss…

Why did this end up so? What’s wrong with this?

There is nothing wrong with the lawyer, nor with the situation you are in. It just “turned out” so, the vicious spiral of events. But it all started with your position towards the situation. You trusted the lawyer just because you thought money was guaranteeing your success. So on the one hand, you measured your success in advance with a specific amount of money, hence you already put yourself a limitation. You would make no move from that position until you get a result. On the other hand, the lawyer behaved in the exactly same way. He would not fight more for you as you had not asked for empathy but rather for a professionalism.

Put simply, both behaved the same way – they trusted the standard flow. But ask yourself the question: is your situation standard? Can a standard situation ever even exist?

Diplomatos’ answer is “NO”.

A standard is a “Stand Hard” behaviour, a hard coded reference that rallies opinions, makes people want to reproduce it or, in other words, a phenomenon that you want to repeat. This is nothing but a spiral. A repeating phenomenon, a karma wheel – call this the way you prefer – this is again a trap you won’t escape from. It is made of a perceptive experience you are getting attached/addicted to and that you want to reproduce.

Thus, standard patterns and behaviours are just another illusions fooling you in your way to success. Einstein qualified insanity as “doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results”. The most important word here is “EXPECTING”, meaning that you do desire something but you resign acting for it.

Standard means “Attachement to something”, being tied to a model, an experience or a situation. Standard means “Spiral” – the one you cannot handle. Standard is comforting, so you trust it. Standard process, standard jobs, standard books, standard people, standard everything. There is no difference between this and a black hole’s gravitational vortex attracting into itself the flow of events.

It does not mean you have to be different at all cost or that you must distinguish yourself from others. It means that if you want to stop being tortured by this vortex of events you simply must go away from them and start gravitating around other things.

There is just one option to succeed in this adventure: dive into the vortex, understand the depth of the problem (become aware) and start immediately propulsing yourself to a differnt orbit.

The Successful Spiral

The best ever way to create a successful spiral of events in your life (both professionaly and personaly) is to “anticipate upon movements” – or abbreviated A.U.M. . Let’s define this methodology in details.

1. Anticipate

To anticipate means to “take before”, i.e. take care of something before an event happens. It also means to act before, or to think before. This is the easiest part actually. Wonder why? Because Past and Future are the most available things to humans. The past can be recorded and the future can be forecasted. The Present remains the most difficult thing in the world. Hence, you need to either look back or forth and take into account the arriving consequences of your current undertaking.

2. Upon

Upon means “over”, “depending on”. This is a very important term as it indicates you the importance of the Present events that are effectively taking place in the “Now”. Few people are able to reconcile the current situation with the past situation. Just because this requires skillful priority management: ability to weigh the past events’ consequences versus the current difficulties. Surprisingly, the key here is your ABILITY TO RELAX! Yes, the latter word has its sense here. By enabling a relaxed behaviour you let yourself easily distinguish what’s more important and what’s less. There exists no other way to better perform the events priorization tasks.

3. Movements

Movements are the so-called events happening in the perceptible reality. Essentially, everything you can smell, see, hear, taste, feel, understand, think, imagine etc… – are the movements of the great wheel or spiral of events you are being mixed in. Your thoughts cannot appear out of nothing, no single thing happens randomly, it is becaused you are in a cyclic whirlpool of events that you come across various perceptions and thoughts as if you bumped to an asteroïd turing on the same orbit. Thus, pay attention to the movements, signs, everything that can help you navigate your way into the new exit.

Diplomatos

No one can claim today being hundred percent aligned with their personality. It is just impossible. By definition, a personality is a characteristic rather than a substance:  it is never the same, its behavior always depends on the situations and – just like our habits – it can take different forms over time. What is this all about…? Our ego. Our Self. Why this article? Because this thing is the root cause of all the sufferance and failures in both professional career and social life.

Wonder what does “being aligned” mean? Who aligns with what? As if there was something else than just our “self”, a presence, an observer that notices the existence of a personality – a virtually made persona – and lets this persona make the conclusions on its behalf. Does that sound complicated? ish…

It becomes even more complicated when someone needs life guidance but instead just listens this damned personality – satisfies its desires, aspirations, fears, addictions, etc. Few people are able to distinguish the inner voice versus the personality’s one. The inner voice means the one coming from the depth of our soul. Our soul? Our substance, consciousness, our awareness or call it whatever you want. In other words when you feel being present, here and now, being in the state of a silent observer – you are making the experience of your substance.

That’s completely different from your personality. The latter mimes and copies in a thousand different ways one’s substance. Not only it is always “acting as” but it is harshly attached to itself and defends its positions and rights for existence. It invents the game of becoming “important”. You like being someone important, or being someone who matters, who makes difference…., don’t you? Why wouldn’t you?

By becoming important, the personality considers that all the challenges and obstacles it overcomes, makes out of it and an even greater “someone”. You become “experienced”. You become “knowledgeable”. You become “clever”. You become that “someone”. You matter.

To succeed well in this relentless game and ensure a complete victory, it makes your substance believe that by losing your personality you’ll lose your “Self”, that you’ll simply die. This is called “self-identification”. It assigns you a persona-type, a character, a role, habits, features. Given that your substance is something extremely subtle and sensitive, very naïf and often open-minded, it believes all the story and gets into the trap of an identification with the so called “Self”. Why that? Because natures fears emptiness.

“What’s the problem in this?” – you would certainly ask. The problem is that you trust your entire life to someone who gets no idea of what to do or what should be done. This looks as if you sat down in a taxi and instead of ordering a trip to your home you trusted the desires of the taxi driver. He may bring you to the place he wants to and that he deems more suitable for you. So, forget about “home”. You’ll never feel yourself home again. You are in a trap, or – if you want – in a trip, a very long trip that may last your entire life. On the way you might be offered some comfort, some great sightseeing’s, some eye-catching stuff, some sensational feelings and you may also meet many interesting people, but never will you ever feel “home”. The disappointments will come one after another. The successes will be alternated by the failures and vice-versa, and yet they simply won’t make sense anymore, because you have no home to bring those successes or failures to.

I do not yet have any clue on how to avoid this or to get rid of it, otherwise I would have been called “Buddha”, however, I have some tricks on how to deal with it and how we can handle it wisely, not cleverly, not intelligently, not shrewdly… but wisely.

In order to succeed in handling this awkward game, you need to be diplomatic. What does this word mean? “Matos” comes from the greek “face” and “diplo” means “double” or “two”. Hence, to succeed you need to see the both sides, the two faces that you and everyone else have.

Many time diplomatic approaches avoided huge crises to the humanity. Then why shouldn’t it work for individuals? Read through the various articles in this website and you will discover the secrets behind the Diplomatos way of thinking.